The Nanny Gig
It’s a huge thing this Nannying gig. Really huge. Life and death huge in some cases. Well, where babies are concerned anyways, then it most definitely is!
But here’s my big question: What to do when something goes wrong? With whom does the blame lie?
Bub banged her nose quite severely on the arm of the couch one day not long ago. She was bouncing around excitedly and ended up face planting the couch. Silly Bub!
The end result: some severe carpet burn, some blood and a whole lot of crying!
It looked worse than it was, and once we had calmed down I was able to stop and think and assess the damage. I could see that she didn’t have any immediate bruising around the nose and eyes.
Her nose wasn’t broken – tick!
Her teeth didn’t come through her lip – tick!
She’s not bleeding internally – tick!
By all accounts it’s superficial – oh thank god!
After a good half an hour of consoling my poor little munchkin, some serious off-key lullabies and a warm bottle to send her off to peaceful, I just cried my eyes out and now I’m exhausted sleep, I turned on myself. The full weight of criticism came attacking and self-doubt was rife in my head.
How could I have let this happen!
Her mum leaves her entrusted in my care and look what happens!
This is not good enough, imagine if it had have been more serious!
This is my first day back at work after having four days off over Christmas.
Maybe I’m not cut out to be a nanny.
Clearly my motherly instincts are desensitized after having time off.
Maybe I’m not a natural at this gig after all.
Poor baby Viv, too little to communicate herself and understand.
A little later I called BossMum to inform her of what had happened, letting her know the details and that Viv was OK save for a rather large red bump on her nose. I then divulged my anguish. Telling BM that I was so sorry to have let this happen, On My Watch!
To which she said:
This kind of thing happens all the time. She’s getting more and more mobile these days. She’s not aware of her spacial distance just yet. If it wasn’t you, it would have happened to someone else! Don’t blame yourself! I’m just glad you were there to do some first aid and give her warm cuddles, you’re her other mother you know!
She then confessed,
Don’t feel bad, I accidentally left her sitting on the couch the other day and walked off to the kitchen to put her nappy in the bin and next thing I know she’s fallen of the couch and face planted the hard carpet floor with a deafening thud! So I know what it’s like!
After some careful reflection I went back and just sat watching Bub sleep in her cot, checking constantly to make sure she was still breathing. (OK so I guess I do have all the motherly instincts after all).
The ordeal got me thinking, of the heavy responsibility we take on as nannies. To bear the responsibility of caring for other people’s children.
- When driving them in the car.
- When giving swimming lessons in the pool.
- When taking them out and about in busy places.
- When walking them to school.
- When overseeing all education and developmental milestones.
- Even down to the ‘feed them responsibly, bath them safely, provide emotional and mental support effectively’.
It’s a huge thing to take on, this Nannying Gig, and mustn’t be taken lightly.
And so I state again, with strong conviction, and with 110% dedication to do my every bit to ensure that my little children do not experience hurt. I say:
Not On My Watch!
For I endeavour to be Superwoman. Or, at the very least, SuperNanny.
They don’t call me NannyShecando for nothing!